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6 Tips for Writing Wedding Vows

Mar 19, 2012 10:54PM ● By Anonymous
  1. After you and your partner have agreed that you would like to write your own vows, share your wishes with your officiant so he or she can plan to incorporate them into your ceremony.
  2. Don’t save writing the vows for last. Allow yourself plenty of time to brainstorm, to make lists of what you might like to include, and to decide what you really want to say.
  3. There is no right or wrong when it comes to writing your wedding vows. Speak from your heart and allow your personality to be reflected in the words you choose.
  4. Share something personal. Mention how you met, how you fell in love, how your significant other makes you feel, special things he or she has done for you . . . explain why you are planning to spend the rest of your life with this person!
  5. You may find that once you start writing the words keep coming (and coming). Choose the points that are the most important to you and forgo the insignificant stuff (or save it for a toast at the rehearsal dinner or reception). By keeping the time it takes to recite your vows to about 30 seconds to 1 minute, you will be able to hold everyone’s attention and allow the ceremony to proceed smoothly.
  6. Rehearse! Read your vows aloud several times to be sure that the words you have chosen are well suited to you and that you haven’t included tongue-twisters that will throw you off! If you and your husband- or bride-to-be don’t plan to share your vows with each other until the ceremony, try reading them to a friend or family member who will give you honest feedback.


Things to Mention in Your Vows:

  • First impression
  • Memorable events
  • Obstacles or challenges you’ve faced together
  • Strengths of your relationship
  • Reasons you love this person
  • Expectations or hopes for the future
  • Marital promises